Operation Happy Marriage

Worshipping, at the temple of celebrity, has never been a favourite past-time of mine. I never understood, the obsession-some people have with celebrity relationships.

You're not interesting to me, just because you have a hit-record, star in a block buster movie, or, by virtue of your profession - can afford to purchase the entire Autumn collection of over priced Jimmy Choo's.

Rather than analyzing and critiquing somebody else's life experience. I prefer to try and make sense of my own. And if a celebrity relationship, can shed some light onto my own life experience, then it's all good. But if not, it's a waste of time.

There is however, one notable exception. Clever, motivated, inspirational, visionary, in-love. And not to mention, effortlessly stylish-beyond-belief. Enter, team Obama.

Did you know, they celebrated their 17th wedding anniversary, on the 3rd October 2009. With Barack, recently revealing that he still finds time to take Michelle out on a date, on a Saturday night. These two are a revelation. Surely theirs is a story, we should all aspire to. I so want, what they've got.

Mr Big

I get this email - out of the blue yesterday, from a guy I had enjoyed a 'friendship' with some 12 years previous, basically, asking me to get in touch. How he got my email address, I don't know - I didn't have this address, way back when.

Anyhow, he was a contestant on Sir Alan Sugar's 'The Apprentice' on BBC 1 - I won't reveal which one! And, has since done pretty well for himself. But my whole reasoning is, aren't ex's - ex's, for a reason? If it didn't work then-why should it work now? Should you ever give love a second chance?

A friend says, that, we were both young at the time and people change. I'm thinking, that although it probably should - financial success, and even the passage of time, don't necessarily translate into emotional or spiritual maturity, do they.

It would be nice to believe that people change - but do they really? Although I've matured over the years, my personality is pretty much the same as it was way-back-then. And he was a memorable contestant - both in my life and on the show.

Nothing ventured - nothing gained I suppose. Let's see what happens. See picture - Sex And The City's - Carrie, and her Mr Big.

Golddigga - Never that!

I resent the modern-day accusation, that women, who like to be appreciated with tokens of affection, are golddigga's. It should be understood that a gift from a man is a form of communication. And don't get me wrong, it's not the cost of the gift that's important, but the thought and the sentiment it brings.

Men, don't you feel good when you hand over that little black box, containing those earrings, on christmas morn - (or any other time of the year - come to think of it). Or watching your lady, unwrap that rare book - you sourced for her B-day.

Show your appreciation - we're so worth it!!!

Don't call me babe

So I went on the date from hell last week. Why hell you ask? Did he commit some unspeakable act, take me to some God-forsaken place, or even, suggest I do something against my will?

No, it's worse than that - he called me babes all night. I hate being called babes. It's so unimaginative, not to mention pretencious, monosyllabic and boring.

I'm listening - anything else... No, didn't think so. I'll never settle for anyone who calls me babe.

Rihanna and Chris

This week saw Rihanna break her silence regarding that-incident with her now ex-boyfriend - Chris Brown. During the interview (with abc's Diane Sawyer), she implied that it wasn't the first time Brown had hit her. And she also acknowledged her mistake in getting back with him, in the first few weeks after the assault.

The whole situation got me wondering why we often, stay in relationships, that make us feel nothing but sadness? Is it that within us all, lies a secret fear of being alone? Do we possess an inner emptiness - which we believe, can only be filled with the attentions of another person - even if, that person is bad for us? Do we sometimes, hopelessly cling on, when there's really nothing worth clinging onto?

Or do we simply believe that life is more bearable, if we have someone to share the up's and downs with? The problem with that theory is, the downs are more often than not, caused by the person your in the relationship with.

At least she left. It was probably a management decision though. They know she's a role-model for many young women. She couldn't stay, it would have sent out such a bad message to other women who may find themselves in similar situations.

We shouldn't feel the need to be with just anybody should we? - better to seek the right somebody, or be alone - no?

She claims to be stronger, wiser and more aware. And in speaking-out, she's become a powerful advocate for victims of domestic violence. One things-for-sure, the next guy she dates, will think twice before messing with her.