David 'The Heartbreaker' Haye

Guys, I think I'm in love. OK, love may be over-stating the case just a little bit. But I'm sure I felt that elusive feeling for-all-of-about, half an hour on Wednesday evening.

What is she babbling on about - you may be asking? Well as some of you may know I am on placement at the Daily Mirror newspaper in Canary Wharf at the moment. And on Wednesday I got to meet and interview (well I held the dictaphone, while an experienced journalist did the interviewing) - the hayemaker himself. Yes David 'heartbreaker' Haye, the undefeated British heavyweight, at his training studio in Vauxhall.

This is all-ahead of his big fight next month, against Nikolai Valuev, the 7 foot 2 Russian giant, for the World title.

Picture the scene, music blaring, top off (his -not mine). And after being introduced - receiving eye contact, a kiss and a hand-shake, (swoon), the interview commenced.

And I must say, I was impressed. Not only was he physically-beautiful-beyond belief, but articulate and gracious too.

I found myself having to mentally repeat the phrase, 'no impure thoughts', 'no impure thoughts' - over and over again.

I must add here though, that (alas) the Hayemaker is in a long-term relationship. But if this is the calibre of men that I get to meet, doing this whole journalism thing - I want in.

Is living together before you're married...a bad idea?

So, there's this modern day trend of living together before your married, err why? I'm 30 years old, and I've never lived with a man. It's such a big step, and a sure fire way to kill romance no?

Part of the excitement of a relationship is the mystery, the unpredictability, the longing. That feeling of not being able to wait until you set eyes on your beloved. That can't be achieved, if you're exposed - on a daily basis, to all the things that make us human - if you know what I mean.

Remember the sentiment, if you love something set it free - familiarity breeds contempt, doesn't it?, or worse still - indifference.

So is it then best, to leave living together, until you've faithfully, and 'officially' - promised to 'I-do'.

The way we were

Here's a question for you: what makes you happy?, is it what you own, or what you experience?

This is the question I was left wondering after watching 'The Way We Were', on DVD last Saturday night.

Remember the film, Barbra Streisand and Robert Redford, play 2 star-crossed lovers. Theirs is a love story sparked by the attraction of opposites, but is so destined to fail because... their just too different!

She's a politico, he's a jock. She wants social-justice, he wants to make it big in Hollywood. They're so in love - but it'll never work. And no amount of screaming at the screen (on my part), will make any difference.

They view life so differently. Her measure of success, is in the 'difference' she can make. His-is-in, how much money he can make. They are destined to go their separate ways...and they do.

They say Love conquers all-I'm not so sure. Good film.

Do men always go for...the easy option?

I know alot of single women. These are hard-working, clever women, who spend many saturday nights alone. While the slappers and air-heads of this world-never seem to be without a date. But why is this?

Is it that you have to 'dress' for love? Although a woman wants to be respected for her mind and all that, upon first meeting you, a man cannot 'see' how clever you are. But notices the physical. It's as simple as that. Sorry, not very (PC) I know, but it works the same way for women doesn't it?

And I can hear women-now, saying, I shouln't have to dress like a slut to get a man's attention. Which is so...right, but a good first impression counts. So dress for love-to attract love.

Trainers should be, just for that...training! (he, he, Lol...)

Equality is fine in the workplace, but not in romance.

So we're having a drink the other day and the subject of , what do you expect from a man on a 1st date-comes up. For the guy to organize where we go and what we do-I say. Not to have to get up India says. For the man to pay, adds Vanessa. 'Wow', says Toaks, nodding his head.

From our responses it seems that we have a clear idea of what we expect. Is it true then, that women expect equality in the workplace - but not in romance?

'Women have double standards, you want to be respected for your thinking, and cherished for your feelings-all at the same time. Men don't know what to do' (Joshua 28)

'Why is it that women expect that the money they earn is theirs, but the money I earn is ours' ?  (Shem 22)

I don't know about you, but I think it takes a very special man to treat a woman like a lady. If I was treated in-any-way unequally at work I'd be furious, but in matter's of the heart, it can never be equal.

Men, are we that difficult to understand!